Reflections

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A new order, a new Nigeria…I hope
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Mcts: Monday came too soon
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A cry for help
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Sai Buhari: Memories of Collating Nigeria’s 2015 Presidential Polls Results
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The Second Best Thing You Can Do With Your Lips.
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Finally, it’s happening: Nigeria is deciding.
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Living, reading and setting goals
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One down, eleven more to grow
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In 2015, I resolve to…
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Closing with cleansing

A new order, a new Nigeria…I hope

        Even though I was going to dedicate all the posts of this month to the children (because of children’s day and all the other holidays), I knew it was going to be difficult not writing about the significance of today. Not after starting the countdown since March 31st.  And I know I wasn’t the only one. This day. May.29.2015. Do you know how long I’ve been waiting for it arrive? How long I’ve been hoping, praying, believing for this change alongside millions of other Nigerians? And like the coming of the morning after a long -drawn night, this day has dawned. It is here. Finally. No, the change hasn’t started but the symbol of it begins today with the inauguration ceremony (I’m watching it on TV right now and can’t help smiling as the president- elect arrives). With the change in government. With the arrival of a new governing party. With the dawn of a new era. This change is on the heels of hope. Something else I and many others have held on to, maybe even longer than our need for change. Hope. That things can and will get better in this country. For all[…]

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Mcts: Monday came too soon

Where did my weekend go? What happened during the weekend? Oh yes, elections. No vehicular movement. Ghost town. After that. Church. Chores. Chilling. And poof, like a flash, that’s where my weekend went. With boring bits flying out. No sooner did I lay me down to sleep than I’m here at 6.15am, tapping away at my laptop. The quiet of the morning, and indeed the house, a soothing companion to my early engagement. My head is uncluttered. My mind is free. My fingers fly of their own volition. I can hear myself think. I plan my day, my week. Collect my thoughts. Enjoy my company. Reminisce. This is one time I’m at my best. Before the dawn. Before the noise of another day. And definitely before my children awake. It’s always a ‘me time’ I look forward to. So even if I’m complaining about a short and uneventful weekend, I’m glad for the start of another work day, work week. Hello Monday, it’s good to see you. I have quite a list of things to do. So let’s get cracking!

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A cry for help

            I was halfway through making breakfast when the sound pierced the quiet of that Sunday morning. It was forlorn. Sad. Like the owner knew his/her fate was approaching fast and hoping to avert it with a desperate, last – minute appeal for mercy. At first, I ignored it and went about my food  task at hand. Breakfast was an untried recipe and I needed to get it right in order to add it to my repertoire of meals. There were also several hungry mouths waiting for it after expending energy in church earlier on. I couldn’t afford a burnt or under cooked meal or one that didn’t turn out well with the right blend of sweet and savoury tastes the recipe required. All eyes were on me and my (improving) cooking skills. So there was little or no time for distractions of any kind. I had just lowered the heat to allow the various components slow – cook to delicious goodness when the sound came again. This time  sustained for a longer period than the first. After that, coming at frequent intervals and for longer. As I put used kitchen items into the sink[…]

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Sai Buhari: Memories of Collating Nigeria’s 2015 Presidential Polls Results

            If you didn’t know this already, we have a new president – elect. All hail Gen. Muhammadu Buhari. Yaaaaaaay! His fourth attempt and subsequent triumph at the polls over the weekend imply a number of things in Nigeria:   1. That Nigerians are beginning to make their voices heard and their votes count. 2. That an opposition party can trump the ruling one. 3. That Nigerians will and can vote out an administration they are unsatisfied  with and disappointed in. 4. That Nigerians want and demand change in the status quo of their daily lives.   Today, we are a happy people, a happy nation because of the results of the elections as well as the electoral process that produced them. However, on Monday March 30  at the start of collating the results from various states, the tension in the country was thicker than a highway divider. Channels TV, a popular news television station, had almost the entire nation(and their friends) glued to their screens watching the proceedings broadcast live from Abuja with Prof. Attahiru Jega, chairman of the Independent National Electoral Commission(INEC), presiding over them. It didn’t help that the process lasted two[…]

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The Second Best Thing You Can Do With Your Lips.

          ‘I’d like to order for a cake.’ ‘What size?’ ‘What sizes do you have?’ She stoops low and brings out all the different sizes of baking pans from somewhere below where she sits. I hover over a  13 – inch rounded one. Undecided. ‘Character cakes. Do you have those? Maybe I can make a choice from there.’ ‘Which character do you want?’ ‘Bubble guppies.’ Blank stare. Silence. Then…’What is bubble…?’ ‘It’s a cartoon of sea creatures: mermaids, mermen, fish, crabs, etc.’ More silence and poker – faced. Then…’We don’t have that.’ ‘Which do you have?’ ‘Mickey mouse, Dora the explorer…’ I shake my head. ‘No, I don’t want any of those. She has outgrown them. What would you suggest for an eight year old girl?’ Silence. Shrug. I raise my brows in anticipation of an answer that never came. Then her colleague right next to her speaks up. Making suggestions. Showing me sample cakes and photos. From there, it was easy to decide on the size, colour and look of the cake. It was T’s birthday on Thursday last week, and bright and early on Wednesday morning saw me talking to a quite uninspiring, reluctantly[…]

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Finally, it’s happening: Nigeria is deciding.

        I am sooooooooo behind in blogging this month. My apologies. I have been under the weather and had to deliberately force myself to get enough rest to prevent a relapse. But I’m back now and stronger. It’s a good day to post as the country goes to the polls to decide on its choice of president for the next four years. Below is something I received a month ago and decided to share today: This election is not about North versus South nor is it Christian versus Muslim. It is about Nigeria and good governance. Don’t allow politicians divide us. When they share money, they don’t talk about religion. When they want donations from Aliko Dangote, they don’t remember he is a Muslim. When they enter an aircraft, they don’t ask the religious faith of the pilot. When their bosses are atheists, they don’t resign from their jobs. When an alhaji gives them contracts, they don’t reject it. They and their wives go to Dubai to spend money. Dubai is in United Arab Emirates but they have no problem buying houses there. Vote your conscience. If you want to vote for Jonathan, vote for him based[…]

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Living, reading and setting goals

                Two weeks ago, I joined an online book club. I’m hoping this move would help me read more books this year and improve on that achievement as I go on. We are a 21-member, all – female group called the bookshelf and I feel really good about it. A few days ago, I posted the article below on the group’s page: What is your reading target? 10 minutes a day? 30 minutes? An hour? A book a week? A month? Quarterly? Annually? One of my 2014 resolutions was to read two (or more) books a month. For someone who claimed to be a voracious reader, this , I admit, was way below my reading standards. But while I played with the idea of increasing my monthly book count, I also considered other areas of my life. I had to be realistic; that’s what the R in the popular S.M.A.R.T goals setting acronym stands for. Because setting the goals are easy. Achieving them…not so much. 2014 started off brilliantly. By the end of February, I had six books under my belt – Mastery, The Art of Speaking Well, Life’s a Pitch, Dreams from[…]

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One down, eleven more to grow

I got this message from one of my gal pals, Muimui, yesterday: Hope it’s been a jolly Jan 2015. This is just to wish you a happy weekend! From our family to yours. A refreshing change from the ‘Happy New Month’ crap that makes the rounds every time another month rolls in. I told her this much when we saw each other in the evening and it turns out she can’t stand the ‘happy new month’ greeting either. Peas of a pod. Any surprise why we’re besties? So it’s February 1. A new month. The longest month has come to an end. FINALLY. Tired of how January simply refused to end, someone called it the 65th month of the year. I totally agreed with him. It just kept on dragging for days… Not anymore. Welcome February. Hello Valentine. What’s up, elections? Here in Nigeria this month, we’ll be mixing loving and voting on the same day. Subtly telling one another to let love reign and not wage war so that the process of elections (especially during and after) can take occur peacefully. Seriously??? Eh…let’s hope it works. Today, I’m reflecting on the month just gone by. Thanks to Muimui’s message[…]

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In 2015, I resolve to…

Live thankfully Like T who appreciates EVERYTHING I do for her in grand style – from making her favourite meals to taking her out to play parks to buying her gifts – thus making me blush and pleased at the same time, I’d live the same way this year. Thankful for everything. Big and minuscule.   Live joyfully   Every  morning, I’ll wake up with the awe of just being alive and begin each day with a smile.   Laugh often    …because it it the best medicine                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    […]

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Closing with cleansing

Here’s the second post. Yesterday I finally did it. The detox I have been procrastinating for almost the entire year. Alone in the kitchen two days ago early in the morning while making breakfast for the children, I noticed fruits crowding the tops of almost all the cabinets. The ones my sister, my sisters – in – law and I bought as well the others given to the family as presents. Paw paws, oranges, bananas, water melons, pears and limes stared back at me. The thought of my-not -having-the -time -to- do -a- three -day -long – water- and – fruit detox(that a family friend had painstakingly detailed on a foolscap paper at the beginning of the year) flashed through my mind. The book I was reading ‘Take Time for You ‘ dedicated two pages to ‘cleansing your temple’ and outlining a simple one – day fruit & vegetable detox plan. ‘A cleanse supplements what the liver already does, but many people believe in a detox’s ability to boost energy, clear the skin, and provide mental clarity.’ I am one of those people. And I was on holiday surrounded by family. So what was stopping me from doing it now?[…]

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